From the Equal Justice Initiative 2026 calendar:

February 1, 1965 - Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. and more than 200 others are arrested and jailed after a voting rights march in Selma, Alabama


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A sinister (and unfortunately appropriate in this moment) transposition of the National Anthem.

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An early Black History Month note: Dr. Gladys West, a sharecroppers’ daughter, laid the groundwork for the Global Positioning System (GPS).

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Silicon Valley's Latest Crisis of Conscience Doesn't Impress Me

Anil Dash recently shared this N.Y. Times piece about the negative reaction within Silicon Valley to a number of CEOs attending the screening of an Amazon-produced documentary about Melania Trump.  Dash has been consistent for many years in encouraging people in tech to vocally oppose things that are wrong and uses this story for the same purpose.  The piece links to an open letter calling for ICE to leave our cities.  But I’m unimpressed by this latest crisis of conscience in tech because of their lack of introspection regarding how their treatment of women and underrepresented minorities over many years contributed to our current environment.

I fully understand the shock and anger over our government’s murder of Alex Pretti.  But I can’t help but contrast that to the lack of reaction to Andreesen Horowitz hiring Daniel Penny as a deal partner, soon after his acquittal for strangling Jordan Neely to death on the NYC subway.  Venture capital as an industry has funded startups with black founders at a rate of just 0.4%. The same Jeff Dean quoted in the N.Y. Times piece saying “Every person regardless of political affiliation should be denouncing this,” also fired Timnit Gebru under questionable circumstances in 2020.  Google would go on to fire Margaret Mitchell, co-founder of their AI ethics unit early in 2021.  Both Meta and Amazon embarked very quickly on a full-scale retreat from their DEI initiatives in the wake of Trump’s re-election in 2024.  In this respect, they followed the lead of Elon Musk, the founders of Basecamp, and the CEO of Coinbase in becoming “anti-woke”.

The tech industry consistently fails to see the connection between how the way they devalue their employees enables the ways Trump’s regime devalues everyone.  We are living through every warning about AI that the women researchers followed and interviewed in the documentary Coded Bias gave us 6 years ago.  This morning’s news brings word that Amazon is cutting another 16,000 jobs, supposedly because of AI improvements.  Meanwhile, some of the most prominent usages of GenAI include generating CSAM and the Trump administration altering photos in support of their mass deportation agenda.  The data center that powers Grok has been poisoning the air in a predominantly black community in Memphis for some time now.  GenAI as an industry is built on industrial-scale theft of copyrighted works—unfortunately aided and abetted by at least one federal court ruling so far.  Without exception, the CEO of Anthropic argues against regulation of GenAI even as he warns of it stealing jobs, all while raising billions of dollars.

Criticism of an out-of-control and unaccountable federal government is good and necessary as far as it goes.  But absent the industry doing some serious introspection and taking action to undo the broader harms to people they are enabling and actively engaged in, it looks like virtue signaling on the way back to business as usual.


Majoring in Minors

Senator Elizabeth Warren’s response to a journalist asking what questions she would pose to the administration regarding Venezuela’s future frustrated me.

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Warren’s framing of Trump’s kidnapping of Nicholas Maduro as a violation of his campaign promise to lower prices serves as an egregious example of “majoring in minors”. She didn’t use the word “illegal” even once to describe what Trump did, despite the clear violation of international law. She didn’t talk about the administration’s failure to get permission from Congress before this action. She effectively treated this illegal action as normal. She and her team chose to put this clip out on social media so they must think it’s good messaging!

If a journalist asks about Venezuela, lead with the illegality of what Trump did. Talk about the potential consequences for everyone who followed those illegal orders. Talk about the murderous boat strikes—also illegal. Talk about the mass deportations of Venezuelans to a country our State Department has announced is no longer safe for Americans there.

Better yet, talk about ICE invading American cities and kidnapping people just like Special Forces did in Venezuela. Talk about ICE murdering innocent people, just like Trump’s operation in Venezuela did. Compare Trump’s actions in Venezuela and his threatened action in Greenland to Putin invading Ukraine. And above all, remind people all the Epstein files still aren’t released—yet another illegal action by the Trump administration.


The thin line between entertainment and war

There may not be a more apt lyric to describe our present moment than that repeated line from No Shelter, a single from the otherwise forgettable soundtrack of the Godzilla movie from nearly 30 years ago. We’re a couple days into the aftermath of Donald Trump ordering the kidnapping of the president of Venezuela, Nicholas Maduro (and his wife), to stand trial in New York for violating U.S. law. Our president–who was elected and re-elected in large part because he played a successful businessman on reality TV–didn’t just order and monitor this raid from his tacky and unsecure club in Florida, he made sure pictures of him looking serious were sprayed all over social media.

In the lead-up to the blatantly-illegal kidnapping of a foreign head of state, the might of the US military has been given the task of blowing up defenseless speedboats and killing their occupants in both the Caribbean and the eastern Pacific on the suspicion (which has yet to be proven) that they are carrying illegal drugs. The Trump administration shared drone footage of at least one such boat being destroyed by a missile.

Whether it’s Trump, or Pete Hegseth, or Stephen Miller, or anyone else in his administration, it really seems that they engage in war and cruelty for entertainment. Social media accounts run by government officials regularly post either insulting AI slop, or ads that clearly reference fascist and white supremacist imagery from the past. Today brought news that someone used non-public information to bet on Polymarket that Maduro would be captured and netted over $400K on a wager of a little over $32K.

Even worse, it’s entirely possible that Maduro’s kidnapping is just the start of this latest escalation of Trump’s lawlessness. Cuba, Colombia, even Mexico could be next. It seems the only lyric of No Shelter that didn’t age well after all this time was “Trade in ya history for a VCR”.


Linux on the Desktop Revisited

I write blog posts primarily for myself, and the post I wrote about running Linux on my Google PixelBook back in 2022, came in handy as I set up the replacement for that Google PixelBook today. I bought an open-box Galaxy Chromebook Plus for under $600. Thanks to that old blog post, I was able to install the Debian version of Slack and Chromium and run it just like I do on my other devices (since there hasn’t been a version of Slack that runs on ChromeOS for years). I’ve also installed Visual Studio Code on the Debian Linux available on this Chromebook Plus. We’ll see if I can get a useful application written using this new device this year.

Compared to my old PixelBook (which now gets used very occasionally for my twins therapy appointments when they happen virtually instead of in-person), this Chromebook Plus is just as light (if not lighter), very thin, has more ports, and a bigger screen. This translates to a keyboard that has enough room for a number pad on the side. This device is my only personal laptop, having replaced my 16" MacBook Pro with a Mac mini M4 in late 2024 since I rarely took that laptop on personal travel.

This Chromebook Plus came with a free year of pro access to Gemini. I’ll do some prompt comparisons with Claude, which I used to experiment a bit with Model Context Protocol (MCP) to try their weather server and MCP client demos last year. I’ve been paying for the $20/month Pro plan for a bit and it’s been an improvement over my experience with Perplexity for the most part–but it’s had some hallucination issues. Other Google-specific stuff I will play with primarily on this machine includes NotebookLM, Whisk, and Flow (AI tools for generating audio, images, and videos from a variety of sources).


Revisiting Octavia Butler

If you love science fiction, I strongly recommend you spend an hour listening to excerpts from Octavia Butler’s fiction and interviews with authors she inspired in this Throughline episode of Winter Book Club.

I was thrilled to learn that Nnedi Okorafor--an excellent science fiction author in her own right—was as blown away by Wild Seed as I was when I first found it at the library as a teenager many years ago.  As we enter year two of the second Trump administration, Parable of the Sower reads like prophecy.  So it was important to be reminded that Butler looked at and listened to Ronald Reagan during his days as governor of California and extrapolated forward from there.

My list of “must-read” books didn’t need to grow any longer, but this podcast definitely added some titles to the list.  In addition to revisting Butler’s Patternist series, Babel-17 (by Samuel R. Delany) is now on loan in my Libby app.  I read Noor last year, and had planned to read more of her but the mutual Butler fandom has accelerated those plans for sure.  I’m long overdue to read book 2 of N.K. Jemisin’s Great Cities duology.  It’s been too long since I’ve read any P. Djeli Clark (The Black God’s Drums was my introduction to him).  I’ve heard Ring Shout is excellent, so that goes in the list for sure.


The New Year Brings The Same Dangers to Democracy

To kickoff my 2026 posting, I’m sharing this story from ContrabandCamp, on the anniversary of Medgar Evers’ birth. The Republican majority on the Supreme Court is poised to deal a fatal blow to the Voting Rights Act—legislation which finally made this country a democracy for its black citizens as well as every other.

It’s tragic that a country which turns just 250 years old this year seems hellbent on returning to a past that was more violent and less free—while certain people pretend that isn’t exactly what’s happening. ContrabandCamp and other independent media organizations provide a vital counterweight to a mainstream media that has helped normalize the sort of gutter racism we haven’t seen since the days of civil rights leaders like Evers being murdered.

If you follow me on social media and you’re interested in supporting and sharing independent media more widely, reach out to me via direct message on whatever platform you see this post. I will share the five gift subscriptions I have to ContrabandCamp with the first five responses I see.

I wish everyone who reads this all the best in this year.


2025 Wrapped: Charitable Giving Edition

This post is my annual self-reminder to support worthy causes financially.  If it encourages others to do so as well, so much the better.

Religiously-Motivated Charitable Giving

In addition to tithe and offering to my home church, Sligo Seventh-Day Adventist Church, I gave an offering to Revision Church Atlanta. I only attend online, but gained enough from the sermons and worship see there nearly every week that it seemed appropriate to donate.  I gave to Adventist Community Services of Greater Washington also.  While I didn’t mention them in prior year-end charitable giving posts, the Helping Hands Sabbath School in Nashville, Tennessee is  Bible study conducted via Zoom that I attend most Saturdays and help facilitate monthly.  Along with donating my time as a facilitator, I contribute funds each month.  Some of them they used to help a church in Jamaica recover from damage caused by Hurricane Melissa.

Other Charitable Giving

World Central Kitchen is new to the list of donation recipients this year.  I donated to them in support of their efforts to feed starving people in the Gaza Strip.  I’ve admired their efforts to feed the hungry in disaster zones and war zones for years but hadn’t donated to them before now.  They’ve also been quite active domestically, providing clean water to families in Asheville, feeding firefighters in Los Angeles as they battled wildfires, and families recovering from floods in Texas.

Also new to the donor recipients list this year is ITSMF.  The purpose of this nonprofit is to prepare people you don’t typically see in executive roles (women & minorities) to become candidates for and to excel in such roles.  They’ve really helped me grow professionally, so I helped raise money from my Managment Academy cohort—Onyx 81—and contributed my own funds as well.  

When Trump and the GOP zeroed out the Corporation for Public Broadcasting, I increased my donations to both local and national public media.

Other Giving

What follows is a list of tip jars, Patreon memberships, Substack subscriptions, and other avenues I use to support worthy causes.

  • Flaming Hydra
    An independent collective of writers I began supporting this year, edited by Maria Bustillos
  • ContrabandCamp
    Another collective led by Michael Harriott, a writer whose work I’ve followed from his days at Very Smart Brothas, to The Root, to this latest venture.
  • Leah Sottile
    She’s a journalist whose work I first began following in 2019 with her Bundyville podcast.  She is the best and most prescient writer about right wing extremists in the western United States bar none.  When she posted on Bluesky that her latest investigative podcast, Hush, was cancelled by Oregon Public Broadcasting—taking away the vast majority of her income and all of her health insurance—I subscribed to her newsletter immediately. 
  • emptywheel
    The blog of independent journalist Marcy Wheeler, she's effectively become the ombudsman of The New York Times, The Washington Post, and other mainstream media outlets. She doesn't just call out shortcomings and failings in their coverage, she clarifies issues that might otherwise be confusing. She's one of just two journalists I value enough to support directly.
  • The Contraband Wagon
    I initially met him through Twitter, and he's taken on the exceedingly difficult challenge of creating constructive conversations on the issue of race. I had the honor of being a panelist for one of the live conversations he moderated on the issue of race in the tech industry. You can find clips of his conversations on YouTube and join his Patreon to get the full-length conversations.
  • Mastodon
    I began supporting the Mastodon project through Patreon in November 2022 after Elon Musk took over Twitter. As we've watched Musk turn Twitter into a propaganda and disinformation platform to (unfortunately successfully) elect Donald Trump, those of us with the means putting money behind efforts to help decentralized social media networks succeed will only grow more important. They recently began selling merchandise which also helps support their operations, which gave me an excuse to buy a stuffed version of their mascot.
  • Hachyderm
    Hachyderm.io is the Mastodon server I moved to in 2023. I sponsor them with a small monthly contribution via GitHub.
  • Blacksky
    Created and maintained by Rudy Fraser, it is effectively its own social media network for black folks on Bluesky that leverages the AT Protocol. I began contributing to his work this month via Open Source Collective, a fiscal host for numerous open source projects I used back when I was still writing software full time including webpack, vue, ESLint, and thousands of others.

Beyond the individuals and collectives listed above, I’m currently donating my time as an assignment grader to a handful of students in the current Management Academy cohort.

I also donated time through my employer to a local charity A Wider Circle, and some peer training efforts for new hires.

Giving Plans for 2026

I expect my charitable giving plans next year to look a lot like this year’s plans.  


2025 Wrapped: Media Edition (Part 2)

Despite most of the movies and shows I watched being on (too many) streaming services, it proved more difficult than I expected to get a “Wrapped” summary of what I watched on each of them this year. What follows is an incomplete list of what I most enjoyed watching in 2025.

Andor

I’ve written about Andor already this year, but it’s worth reiterating just how good this show was.  It's the best live-action Star Wars outside of the original Star Wars and The Empire Strikes Back.  It rivaled the best shows on TV this year for quality regardless of genre.  Trump’s second term made the show painfully-relevant to our present.

Adolescence

As a parent to twin 10-year-olds, the most terrifying 4 episodes of TV I watched all year when it comes to the impacts cyberbullying on children.  Even though it’s set in the U.K., the ways young people have their own language, the cluelessness of police to what’s happening under the surface, the parents of the young boy trying their best but still feeling overmatched—all of it felt uncomfortably universal.  It’s the only thing I watched this year that I recommended to another friend of mine with kids as a show worth watching.  Disappointed as I was that Andor didn’t bring home any major acting awards, Stephen Graham and Owen Cooper really did earn the Primetime Emmys they won with their heartbreaking portrayals of father and son.

Dope Thief

This show was very good, and very stressful, primarily because of Brian Tyree Henry and Wagner Moura’s portrayls of Ray Driscoll and Manny Carvalho.  Small-time crooks get baited into a much bigger score than they can handle and so many things go tragically wrong.  Corrupt cops, cheating, betrayal, addiction, grief, a gunfight outside a hospital—this show packed a lot of story into just 8 episodes.

Down Cemetary Road

Based on Mick Herron’s very first novel, this show skipped over a bunch of others in my too-long queue of show to watch—and it was worth it.  Emma Thompson is great as a sleazy, sort of punk rock private investigator named Zoë Boehm.  Ruth Wilson (an actress I’ve enjoyed watching since she first appeared in Luther) is fun to watch as Sarah Tucker.  The show gives you a bit of the dysfunctional government agent bits we see in full flower in Slow Horses, but is primarily a mystery.  There are 3 more Zoë Boehm novels.  Perhaps Apple TV+ will put all the rest of them onscreen.

F1

One of just two movies this year I made a point of going to a theater to see, it delivered on the visuals and the sound that I expected from a movie about modern F1 racing, with the unexpected bonus of a 24 hours of Daytona preamble.  Really impressive that Brad Pitt and Damson Idris really were driving those cars in excess of 180mph on camera.  Not the best racing moving storywise (Rush was better), but a fun movie to watch.

Foundation

Season 3 of Foundation, while it has key differences from Asimov’s books in both characters and plots, is a show I really enjoyed.  Lots of great acting performances here, especially Laura Birn as Demerzel and Lee Pace as Brother Day.  I was blown away by the finale, and am very curious to see what Season 4 brings.

MobLand

A proper British gangster tale starring Tom Hardy, Pierce Brosnan, & Helen Mirren.  Mirren’s depiction of Maeve Harrigan in particular is amazing in this—a much different character than her potrayal of Cara Dutton in 1923.  Playing opposite Brosnan as Conrad Harrigan, the dynamic she creates is adversarial.  I really hope this show gets another season.

The Pitt

Noah Wyle in a medical drama that wasn’t ER was one of the best things I watched this year.  Despite some of the legal drama regarding whether or not it was an ER sequel, this show was much better than any ER sequel could have been.  The entire season spanning a single shift, the flashbacks to COVID, the casting, the acting performances, setting it in Pittsburgh, the storylines (addiction, budget concerns, PTSD, burnout, etc)—every choice just worked.  Season 2 starts January 8 and I’m looking forward to it.

Severance

Despite an awfully long hiatus between the first season and the most recent one, 

Sinners

I made a point of seeing this movie in the theater on the biggest screen I could find because I watched Ryan Coogler geek out on film formats for about 11 minutes.  An excellent story about racism, blues music, and colorism (and vampires both metaphorical and real) in 1930s Mississippi.   The depiction of Delta Chinese people in this movie was spot-on, according to a documentary I’ve seen on Chinese folks in the Mississippi Delta.  The same is true of the Choctaw people who appear briefly in the film hunting the vampire Remmick.

Slow Horses

Espionage is probably my favorite genre outside of science fiction, and the latest season of Slow Horses was excellent.  This crew of mostly-failed MI-5 agents balances the serious and the funny very well.  Gary Oldman as the profane and broken-down Jackson Lamb is the polar opposite of the capable and competent George Smiley he depicts in Tinker, Tailor, Soldier, Spy.  I’ve read all of Mick Herron’s Slough House series except the latest—Clown Town—which released just this year.  I sincerly hope Apple TV+ decides to put the entire series onscreen because they’ve done a great job with the first five novels.

Task

From the same creator behind Mare of Easttown, this show is another crime story set in Pennsylvania with a similarly grim tone.  As in Dope Thief, some motorcycle gang members serve as key villians in this one too.  Mark Ruffalo was excellent in this as an FBI special agent who was formerly a Catholic priest.  It was very interesting to see Fabien Frankel and Thuso Mbedu in their roles here having and enjoyed their performances in House of the Dragon, The Underground Railroad, and The Woman King.

Tour de France: Unchained: Season 3

I haven’t been on a bike in years, or come anywhere near competing, but this documentary was compelling to watch.


2025 Wrapped: Media Edition (Part 1)

Since Spotify and YouTube have started puttting out their “Wrapped” summaries of what we’ve been listening to and watching all year, I’ll use them as the impetus to discuss other media I’ve found interesting this year.

Books, Ebooks, & Audiobooks

Cahokia Jazz, by Francis Spufford, was an amazing listen as an audiobook.  Andy Ingalls narrates a murder mystery set in an alternative 1920s America where Native Americans thrived instead of nearly being wiped out by genocide.  The same author previously wrote Golden Hill, another work of historical fiction set in pre-Revolutionary War New York City that I will definitely check out soon.

Riot Baby, by Tochi Onyebuchi, is a sci-fi story with black protagonists that plays with one of my favorite story elements—time travel.

Guardians of the Whills, by Greg Rucka, gives the reader some backstory for Baze Malbus and Chirrut Imwe, who we see in Rogue One.  I’d long ago fallen out of the habit of reading Star Wars novels (Timothy Zahn’s Thrawn trilogy is probably the last set I read) but Andor finishing up in May this year nudged me to check this out.  It wasn’t a long book, but it did a nice job of fleshing out the characters, their friendship, and their motivations.

Leviathan Falls, by James S.A. Corey, is the final novel in The Expanse series.  It was a fitting end to a great series.

Demon Copperhead, by Barbara Kingsolver, deserved the Pulitzer Prize it won for fiction.  Published in 2022, this modern reimagining of David Copperfield may be truer than anything J.D. Vance ever wrote in Hillbilly Elegy.  Here are a couple of choice highlights from my reading of the ebook:

“The army recruiters in shiny gold buttons come to harvest their jackpost of hopeless futures.  Goddamn.”

“Certain pitiful souls around here see whiteness as their last asset that hasn’t been totaled or repossessed."

Noor, by Nnedi Okorafor, was a very engaging sci-fi novel set in Nigeria that brings in ideas about biotech, climate change, and the nature of humanity.  

Project Hail Mary, by Andy Weir, is being turned into a movie just like The Martian.  The latest story goes much further afield than Mars, and is also a rescue mission—only with much bigger stakes.  Not a short book at nearly 500 pages, but I was sucked in by the story and the protagonist so it took me about 7 hours to finish over the course of a few days.

 

YouTube

I spent a lot more time on YouTube this year than I expected.  I blame the YouTube Premium trial for exposing me to a product so much better than the ad-supported version I may never be able to quit.  My primary use case is watching church services (one from a church in Atlanta, another in Virginia).  According to YouTube’s recap I also watched a lot of electric car reviews.  Due largely to my obsession with Andor, I also watched a lot of videos from the GenerationTech channel.

Perhaps the most useful thing I started watching just this month (and expect to be watching and coding along with well into 2026) is an old series by Immo Landwerth where he builds a compiler from scratch.

 

Spotify

According to this year’s Spotify Wrapped, my listening age is a laughably young 36.  I have no idea how they calculate these ages.  I figured all the soundtracks and classical music I listen to would have skewed things more toward my actual age (51).  I did listen to GNX and Let God Sort Em Out quite a bit though, so maybe they’re the culprits.  In truth, since my Spotify account is the one we use with Sonos, the music we play for our twins every night to fall asleep to is probably the main thing pushing that age downward.

Because I commute from Maryland to northern Virginia for work a few days a week, I spend a lot of time listening to podcasts.  The main one I listen to is The Daily, from The New York Times.  Lately I've been listening more to Apple News Today (audio).  My primary podcast app is Overcast, where I listen to shows like Fresh Air, Embedded, Hanselminutes, Reveal, and Throughline.  Overcast doesn’t have a “Wrapped” feature, but Harold Martin on Reddit built a couple of projects to explore your listening habits and create a personal episodes page that I might need to explore.


You Don’t Need the Manosphere, You Need Hobbies

Maria Bustillos wrote this great piece on the inadequacy of Scott Galloway’s kinder, gentler approach to the manosphere using Jessica Winter’s review of his latest book as a launching pad.  The arrival of this piece couldn’t have been more perfectly timed, given the laughter we’re still enjoying over how wounded Elon Musk was by a Joyce Carol Oates tweet that called him uneducated and uncultured. Bustillos' piece prompted this insight for me regarding the manosphere (which I initially shared on Bluesky):

A large part of what is broken about the so-called manosphere, whether for the scammers, the marks, or the well-meaning (like Galloway) is that their conception of manhood is as a performance—for other men.

A manhood which is primarily about what other men think of you cannot help but be shallow and unstable—constantly under threat.  The last time I wrote about manhood in response to Ian Dunt's “progressive” attempt to do so, the fictional example I used highlighted the problem with male expectations of what masculinity should look like. This fundamental flaw of the manosphere cannot be fixed by Galloway’s 3 Ps of manhood: (Men) Protect, Provide, and Procreate.  Even though the 3 Ps are ostensibly about men’s proper relationship to women, they skip over the fundamental requirement for a man to have a clear sense of self.  Winter’s piece digs deeper into these misguided attempts to “reform” the manosphere by Governor Gavin Newsom and former Chicago mayor Rahm Emanuel.  Their presidential aspirations make them uniquely unsuited to this task, not only because it’s obvious their care doesn’t extend beyond what might get them elected, but because they’ve “accepted at face value [Charlie] Kirk’s premise—young American men are in terrible and unprecedented straits, and those currents are yanking them rightward” as Winter says.  They believe (cynically, in my opinion) that if they pull just the right levers in government that they can fix what’s wrong with young American men.  Unspoken in the Kirk premise is that the young American men being discussed are white.  Also unacknowledged in this premise is the sense of entitlement and grievance behind it.  The manosphere tells these men that they are owed something—despite not having put in any work for that something at all.  Kirk in particular told them that women and people of color have things they shouldn’t and don’t deserve.  Men with inner lives hollow enough to be swayed by racist messaging like that won’t be convinced to vote for you with “new zoning regulations and tax credits for first-time homeowners”, Emanuel’s offering to young men according to Winter’s piece.

One of many things Bustillos’ piece does well is highlight the wide variety of manhood ideals in fiction and contrasts them with how flat Galloway’s concept of masculinity is by comparison.  One example she names who’s worth expanding on further is Captain James T. Kirk.  The womanizer in space aspect of the character is stereotypical, even offensive to our modern sensibilities.  But the friendship between Kirk and Spock actually provides a powerful example of the type of relationship we underrate the importance of cultivating—deep friendships with other men.  If you read the Bible (either academically or as a believer), you’ve encountered a similar relationship between Jonathan—the son of King Saul—and David.  There is plenty of debate regarding whether or not their relationship was sexual, but I fall in the camp of those who believe the friendship was deep and platonic. Another manhood ideal in fiction who wasn’t in Bustillos’ list is Captain Jack Aubrey, as depicted by Russell Crowe in the movie Master and Commander.  He isn’t defined solely by his skill as a sailor and captain who inspires fierce loyalty in his crew.  He also plays the violin.  His friendship with Dr. Stephen Maturin includes a mutual love of music and we see and hear them play violin and cello duets.  Benjamin Sisko—my favorite captain in my favorite genre—maintains numerous hobbies including the piano, baseball, and cooking (notable because of the availability of replicators).

As a society, we’ve put ourselves in a place where our discussions of masculinity revolve around romantic relationships with women and competency at “manly” things.  We don’t talk seriously about deep friendships with other men and we don’t talk about the importance of hobbies.  By hobby I don’t mean a side hustle or something you monetize.  I mean a thing you enjoy and pursue just because you like it.  I think “manosphere men” are there in large part because they lack other interests.  They don’t read books, watch movies or plays, go to art museums, concerts, or sporting events.  My parents took my sister and I to all of those things on a regular basis.

Over the years I’ve picked up and dropped any number of hobbies, thanks in large part to a close friend who has a wide variety of interests.  We’ve sailed boats together, cycled, and gone downhill skiing.  We got into German boardgames because of a couple of his roommates.  He taught me film photography.  Marriage and twins (and age) meant less time (and energy) for certain hobbies.  I haven’t touched the piano seriously in years (which I regret).  Nor have I been on the bike like I used to be.  But I do play videogames with my daughter more and more regularly.  I read books (dead tree, audiobooks, and ebooks).  I listen to music.  I write (occasionally the old-fashioned way, in a notebook with a pen instead of online).  When I go on vacation, I take photos.

The main point of many of these hobbies was just spending time with friends doing something fun.  Some of them built useful skills.  Some of them turned out to be great ways to spend time with women I wanted relationships with.  The solitary ones (especially reading & writing) help me maintain my inner life—my beliefs, what I think, how I feel, what (and whom) I value--my sense of self.  What the manosphere offers men (even Galloway’s slightly more benevolent version) are shortcuts to companionship and a narrative that makes society accountable for the work of understanding and growing themselves that they’ve failed to do.  There’s more to being a man than cleaning your room, or competence at work, or being fit.  You need to build and maintain an inner life, and an outer life (including hobbies)!  Spend less time being concerned with people who don’t care about you beyond your vote for them, or the money in your wallet they want.  Spend more time with people who matter to you—and whom you matter to—regardless of where you work or how much you make.



How I Switched to a Custom Domain on Blacksky

After migrating to Blacksky some weeks ago, I wanted to return to my custom handle as well. The instructions I found were Bluesky-specific, so I captured some screenshots as I went along in case it might help others who want to switch from a blacksky.app handle to using a custom domain instead.

Once you’re logged into blacksky.community, click the Settings button (gear symbol) at the bottom of the left navigation in your browser window. You should see something like this:

Auto-generated description: A settings page for a social media application is displayed, featuring profile options on the left and a list of trending topics and menu items on the right.

Next you’ll click on Account, shown here:

Auto-generated description: A social media settings page displays options like Account, Privacy, and Moderation, with trending topics listed on the side.

Now you should see the following:

Auto-generated description: A user interface of an account settings page on a website displays options for updating personal information and managing account preferences, with a sidebar offering navigation links and trending topics.

Click Handle and you should see this:

Auto-generated description: A dialog box titled Change Handle displays options for entering a new handle and domain on a website’s account settings page.

I own the genxjamerican.com domain, so I clicked the “I have my own domain” button as shown here:



Auto-generated description: A dialog box for changing a handle is shown on a social media account settings page, offering options to set a new handle or use a custom domain.

What displayed next for me is this:

Auto-generated description: A user interface for changing a handle with DNS record verification options is displayed.

Technically, I didn’t need to update the domain record since I’d switched to that domain soon after joining Bluesky originally. But to change the comment associated the record, I went in here:



Auto-generated description: A DNS records table displays various entries for the domain genxjamerican.com, including MX, NS, SOA, and TXT records.

Then I edited the note as shown here and pressed the “Update Record” button:



Auto-generated description: A user interface for editing TXT records on dnsimple.com, showing a custom domain update with a Blacksky handle description.

Next I filled in my domain, which automatically filled in the domain record in the modal dialog and activated the “Verify DNS Record” button as shown below:

Auto-generated description: A form for changing a domain handle is displayed, with options to enter DNS information and verify a DNS record.

Pressing the “Verify DNS Record” button updated the modal dialog to this:

Auto-generated description: A user interface for changing a handle on a website, showing DNS settings instructions.

Pressing the “Update to genxjamerican.com” button completed my handle change.


How Not to Talk About Being a Man

Ian Dunt, a British journalist wrote [this piece] (https://iandunt.substack.com/p/how-to-be-a-man-4ae) in August 2025 as an attempt a “a progressive view of masculinity and on men getting laid.” Understanding that his intent was to be helpful, there are a at least a couple problems with this: (1) it puts yet another thing into the realm of politics that it is ill-suited to handle and (2) it’s reactive to dysfunction on the right. Progressives don’t need to have an opinion on masculinity and “men getting laid” just because conservatives have one. What might be more useful is a focus on how social darwinism and free marketing economics have damaged society to an extent that many people aren’t having fulfilling relationships.

Reading this piece reminded me of a scene from the show Luther, where Idris Elba’s detective talks about his father’s expectations of how his son would perform masculinity because of his size (6'2") and physique and his disappointment because he was more interested in books. Absent from Dunt’s piece about masculinity is any mention of fathers or mothers–the parents whom I would expect to the primary shapers of masculinity (and femininity) because they raised the boys and the girls that have become the subjects of his piece.

Our parents should be the primary people teaching us both values (whether secular or religious) and competence. My father taught me things like how to study the Bible, how to iron a dress shirt, and manage financial matters. My mother introduced me to science fiction and poetry, as teaching me how to cook and clean. Both of my parents did yardwork–including mowing the lawn. My dad in particular still talks about the importance of having an avocation as well as a vocation (the former being a fancy word for “hobby”, which he uses as a Jamaican man whose formative years preceded the island’s independence from the United Kingdom).

No one’s parents are good at everything, but this is where extended family, churches, youth leagues, camps, Boy Scouts, etc come in. All these institutions should provide lessons and positive role models to guide men in a positive direction should they choose to follow it. The success of people like Jordan Peterson, Andrew Tate, and Kevin Samuels in being viewed as men whose advice regarding relationships should be followed suggests a catastrophic failure of all the aforementioned institutions.

I’m nobody’s model husband or parent by any means. I engage in therapy and reading regularly to try and improve in both roles. But I’ll be damned if I let some random person from the internet–or anywhere else–have more influence over my children than I do. Those of us who are parents need to have enough pride–if not jealousy–about our position in the lives of our children that neither politician, nor influencer, nor pickup artist, nor grifter, nor professional opinion maker can gain meaningful purchase or influence ahead of us.


Listen Frontier: Gov. Stitt says compassion has limits as state troopers clear Tulsa homeless camps

This week on Listen Frontier, we’re looking at Operation SAFE, Governor Kevin Stitt’s effort to clear homeless encampments in Tulsa with the help of the Oklahoma Highway Patrol.

The Frontier sat down with Gov. Stitt, who told me the operation isn’t about solving homelessness, but about enforcing the law. He said Oklahomans are experiencing “compassion fatigue,” and that many of the people removed from encampments “didn’t want help.”

We also spoke with Steven Whitaker, CEO of Tulsa’s John 3:16 Mission, who offered a different view. Whitaker acknowledged the risks of being too compassionate, but stressed that the people living on Tulsa’s streets are our neighbors, and most of them are in desperate need of empathy, shelter, and support.

Their perspectives paint a complicated picture of homelessness in Tulsa, and the divide over how the state and city should respond.

Oklahoma Gov. Kevin Stitt says his administration’s Operation SAFE in Tulsa is less about solving homelessness and more about “enforcing the law,” even as local shelter leaders warn the sweeps are displacing vulnerable people.

The operation, launched in early September, has seen the Oklahoma Highway Patrol clearing homeless encampments on state property in Tulsa under bridges and overpasses across the city. Stitt has touted the effort as a success. Critics, including Tulsa’s new mayor and some service providers, argue Stitt’s operation lacks long-term solutions.

“This is not about solving homelessness,” Stitt said in an interview with The Frontier. “This is about enforcing the law and making sure you’re setting the culture to allow people to go get the help that they need and make sure that they’re not breaking the law, camping in areas that they shouldn’t. And I think that’s a big distinction.”

Stitt said business owners pushed him to act after frustration grew over encampments across Tulsa. 

Bill Knight, chairman of Tulsa’s Regional Chamber of Commerce and owner of a local car dealership group, has supported Stitt’s initiative.

”Tulsa’s business community supports leadership that prioritizes the safety of those who live and work within our city and region,” Knight said in a statement. “We appreciate the governor’s actions to enforce the laws and bolster Tulsa’s pursuit to enhance quality of life. This initiative complements the ongoing efforts by various Tulsa entities, reinforcing our collective commitment to addressing complex issues like homelessness and public safety.”

“The biggest issue facing Tulsa is homelessness. And so I started asking more questions. We started doing research. Why isn’t the city fixing these issues? So I instructed the Highway Patrol to just simply enforce the law,” Stitt said.

The governor argues that allowing people to remain on the streets perpetuates suffering. 

“We can never build enough houses, we can never have enough compassion, because it is going to continue to bring more and more and more people into Tulsa,” he said. “We want to help people, but if you don’t want help, we’re not going to let you continue to break the law and do drugs and harass people and live on the street.”

“They don’t want help”

Stitt dismissed concerns about shelter capacity, saying only one person encountered during the sweeps had requested help from law enforcement to reach a shelter. He said his plan was focused on creating an environment that would give Tulsa’s homeless population little choice but to get off the street.

“They don’t want help. They haven’t hit rock bottom yet,” Stitt said. “So if you create an environment that allows them to stay in your city and lay on the street, then they’re going to keep going there. But as soon as you say, no, no, we’re going to enforce the law here … that’s compassion.”

He said some may choose to leave Tulsa altogether.

“Or they’re going to go to Portland or Los Angeles, they’re going to move on,” he said. 

State officials reported collecting hundreds of thousands of pounds of debris during the sweeps, as well as stolen credit cards and large quantities of syringes. 

“Just in the last three or four days, (we’ve cleared) about 600,000 pounds of debris and trash,” Stitt said. “(Oklahoma Highway Patrol) reported to me that they found 100 stolen credit cards. They have a 50-gallon drum, almost 100% filled with needles.”

Politics in the background

The sweeps have also sparked speculation about political motivations. Tulsa’s new Democratic mayor, Monroe Nichols, recently struck an agreement to send traffic tickets and other municipal charges involving tribal citizens to the Muscogee Nation that Stitt strongly opposed. The governor’s crackdown followed soon after.

Stitt denied the connection, though he was critical of the settlement. 

“There’s no possible way that this is good for public safety for you to co-govern the city of Tulsa with another nation,” he said. “When we turn over the policing of our city to Russia, to France, to another sovereign nation, it just makes no sense whatsoever.”

While acknowledging disagreements with Nichols, Stitt said he liked Tulsa’s mayor and he was focused on public safety, not the mayor’s policies.

“This specific homelessness issue is not a retaliation,” Stitt said. 

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Local shelters push back

Steven Whitaker, CEO of Tulsa’s John 3:16 Mission, agreed that encampments had become a public health issue but criticized Operation SAFE for moving people without linking them to services.

“There’s not been any transport offers occurring from OHP of the folks that they’re sweeping in encampments to service providers, so they’re just kind of being pushed along and made to move out, and that’s been the approach. And so that’s not ideal,” Whitaker said.

He acknowledged that some people had sought help at his shelter since the sweeps began, but “not a tremendous amount.”

“If it can be a catalyst for that, and we can make lemonade out of lemons, then that’s a good thing,” Whitaker said.

Whitaker described the sweeps as disruptive and said some people lost personal belongings that were some of their only remaining connections to families as troopers worked to clear camps. But he agreed with Stitt that some more heavily trafficked locations across the city were unsafe for the homeless population as well.

“You could argue (the cleanup is) a positive. Those areas weren’t clean, weren’t sanitary, and it wasn’t dignifying, it wasn’t humane,” Whitaker said. “And so we’re just trying to balance that out while remaining compassionate and redefining what compassion means.”

The mission, which recently invested $20 million into a west Tulsa recovery campus, offers year-long treatment and rehabilitation programs. Whitaker said permanent solutions require long-term commitment, not just enforcement.

For Whitaker, compassion requires patience and planning. 

“We believe that people are created for a purpose, and there’s an opportunity for them to be restored and go through recovery,” he said. “That’s not cheap. It’s not easy, but it is the best way to get people from the low spot that they’re in to a functional spot.”

This article first appeared on The Frontier and is republished here under a Creative Commons Attribution-NoDerivatives 4.0 International License.


Charlie Kirk's Legacy Is Simple

It is very unfortunate that any 31-year-old man already have a legacy–because that means he is dead. One of my friends, an academic who teaches political studies, described Charlie Kirk’s legacy as complex. Elizabeth Spiers, writing for The Nation magazine, shares a blunter view of Kirk’s legacy that has already exposed her to hateful responses and threats online. I subscribe more to Spiers' view. I do not find Charlie Kirk’s legacy complex at all.

Turning Point USA’s Professor Watchlist subjected numerous academics and their institutions to harassment and death threats. This Baltimore Banner piece published in the immediate aftermath of Kirk’s murder touches on just a few of the professors at universities in my state negatively impacted by Kirk’s watchlist.

He consistently used his charisma and rhetorical skills to denigrate the intelligence of black people—especially black women—far more academically accomplished than himself. Like many conservatives, he also opposed the LGBT community having legal protections (marriage, gender-affirming care, becoming parents via adoption, military service, etc) and abortion. He was one conservative voice among many who pushed falsehoods about COVID-19 (complications of which would kill the co-founder of Turning Point USA in 2020). Kirk’s rhetoric helped amplify and spread the Great Replacement conspiracy theory, which as of 2022 had inspired mass shootings in Christchurch (51 dead while worshiping in their mosque), El Paso (23 dead), Pittsburgh (11 dead while worshiping in their synagogue), and Buffalo (10 dead). Many of Kirk’s publicly-stated views are accurately described as hate speech. This fact did not prevent Matthew Dowd from being fired.

Kirk’s comments regarding the Second Amendment valued it ahead of the lives of children dead due to gun violence in their schools, and most recently in Minnesota their churches. It seems the state of Utah may share those values as well. Per the law in Utah as of 2021, open and concealed carry of guns was already legal. Nor does Utah have extreme risk protection orders (colloquially known as red-flag laws). Just last month, Utah extended gun rights even further by passing a law legalizing open carry on college campuses. Literally a minute after Kirk was shot, first responders were called to another school shooting in a school in Colorado.

To the extent that any complexity exists in the Kirk legacy, it exists because our media landscape is so fractured that there are probably as many people completely unaware of the hate speech he regularly engaged in as there are people who know it well–if not having been directly targeted by it.

Kirk’s legacy is his worldview being enacted as policy by Donald Trump and his appointees. Kirk’s brief life is an unfortunate and sad example of the words of Proverbs 18:21: Death and life are in the power of the tongue. And those who love it will eat its fruit.


Navigating the Great Delayering as a Senior Manager or Individual Contributor

The recent Wall Street Journal piece titled Your Boss Doesn’t Have Time to Talk to You describes the past year-and-a-half of my life as a senior manager on the software side in a financial institution very well. My “roll up”–the number of people who report to me directly–is 14 today, but has been as high as 21 within the past month or two. The delayering happening across corporate America is making workplaces worse for managers, for individual contributors (ICs), for the products companies put out, and ultimately for consumers.

The push from Wall Street to turn management into a job where you just “push the work forward”, as Beth Steinberg says in the WSJ piece, is short-sighted. Leaders must also be about helping their directs become more effective in their roles and leveling up to be capable of taking on more scope successfully. This is how a smart organization builds the next generations of leaders from within. One of the ways I tell people I mentor to judge hiring managers is by whether or not it seems clear that the professional growth of their direct reports is a top tier priority. Delayering is causing that answer to be “no” for a growing number of leaders.

A corporate America that already does a substandard job of training leaders has further broken the leadership growth ladder with delayering. In my organization, that means people leadership doesn’t start until you become a senior manager—with responsibilities for 2 separate engineering teams. Gone are the opportunities to create stretch roles managing a small number of direct reports or contractors and coaching aspiring leaders through successes and setbacks. Gone also are the opportunities for an IC to test out if leadership is for them on a small scale, and to change career tracks if they have a good experience. Failing to develop new leaders internally while stretching and burning out existing leaders with additional responsibilities heaped on them will contribute to poor decision making, organizations losing direction, perhaps even negative P&L outcomes until the leadership gaps are filled.

Delayering doesn’t only worsen life for ICs by reducing the amount of 1:1 time with their leader for feedback, it makes that feedback less-likely to be tactically useful because that leader’s broader scope necessarily puts them further from the tactical work. When I led one team of engineers, my scope was narrow enough to review PRs and provide comments to help subsequent work improve. I could question individual design choices and shape them for the better. I could work individually on helping my directs communicate more effectively. 14 directs is too many people for one manager to coach and guide directly that will yield significant professional growth.

Delayering may have improved the profitability and stock prices of most FAANG companies (and Microsoft) in the near term, but the trend has not improved these companies’ products at all in my experience. Google Search results are noticeably worse. Meta’s product newest product offerings still look very similar to features pioneered by much smaller companies and platforms. Their GenAI advances also appear to have stalled relative to their competitors.

How does a people leader who still wants to prioritize the growth of his direct reports mitigate the downsides of delayering? Three approaches I’ve been taking are: (1) 1:1s every 2 weeks instead of weekly, (2) requesting weekly reports wins, planned work, & risks, (3) delegating more tactical mentoring to my most senior ICs. Approach 1 just accepts the reality of a limited number of hours in a day and a limited number of days in the week. My burning out would serve no one’s interest. I still maintain a weekly cadence for ICs where I have performance concerns, but a longer cadence for consistent strong performers still gives us both enough touch points beyond the usual scrum ceremonies for now. Approach 2 (not the stupid and deservedly panned “5 things” emails demanded of federal employees by Elon Musk) has enabled me to see and respond to risks more quickly—-and escalate them to my director if and when needed. They will also provide a great resource for performance management when it’s time to talk about the accomplishments of my directs in future review cycles. Approach 3 expands the scope of responsibilities for senior ICs from just an owner of technical scope, to an exemplar for less-senior teammates.

ICs in these delayered workplaces must consistently look beyond their managers to mitigate the downsides of this flatter organizational model. I’ve worked in tech long enough to remember very infrequent 1:1 time with my manager and having to make the case in writing for conferences I wanted to attend and training I wanted to take. Those relatively new to the tech industry will have to exercise the muscles of owning their professional development early and often now.

Whether we like it or not, the delayering of corporate America is changing the workplace in ways we don’t control. We still control our effort, and must mitigate the downsides of delayering so we can further grow ourselves professionally and those we work with. Regardless of the organizational design fads of the present, people matter. Professionalism matters. Treating people like they matter and being professional will outlast every trend.